I have casual sex with her sometimes though. He compares you to her (ya'll could be in a constant competition because if he loves her, he values her more) 2. In some cultures, its normal for a guy to call his girlfriend his baby mama as a way of saying hes committed to her and sees her as wife and/or mother material. I get along with her to show my son the right way to treat females. The other day he didnt intorduce me as his gf to some people because he was scared what they would think about his relationship failing with her. I will say that men dont forget and as I dont have a baby mama will answer slightly differently. Anyway I was ready to walk I don't want that in my life or to be a second to no one. Secret-keeping is kind of an unhealthy way to try to de-triangle. You arent wrong in feeling that, a person can only take so much, and patient and understanding for so long before someone pushes too far. N always remember God made everything in two and so he will give you the right man! I was so loyal to my daughters father. The reality is you can do better. Does any of this make sense if you were truly his girlfriend and she were an ex? Type above and press Enter to search. Don't fall into his trap please. Have you bought cars or apartments for any of your exes? In the meantime he was "single" so he acquired a "gf", but now the wife has shown up, he needs to juggle things a bit to keep both women happy. So i just do me, and she do her. I'm sure one of the other women he's messaging will take him in. Long story short I end up coming home Monday , and something tells me to go on Facebook and her page. It hard to let him go I'm just trying to let him be, he says I'm to blame for why nobody wants to be with him , they get tired of me trying to be with him or whatever but he does things to make me think let's do this . Because the sex is amazing and its something we both want. Where do you fit into this mess? She probabaly knows someone is there with him being you and she calls on purpose just to make you mad and get back at him. I agree . Because no matter who he or I wind up with, they will have to know that we are bonded for life. For a while when I got back he was all about me and didn't pay her much mind he didn't get confirmation it was his son until the boy was like 5/6 and that's when he started being nice and there for her she would tell him all her problems he did the same they ended up ****in on the low i actually was told there dude and I didn't belt it but my dumb ass realized what it was when his car was outside a motel. Why would he buy his ex an apartment? I of course love him and I can't help it. That was new, but I was open to talk to her because he had never done that before. My bd and I were engaged before I got pregnant. I'm dealing with the same thing and I wonder would he ever get back with her even though we have a child together now. She reply saying okay was just giving you the heads up or I think I dropped the tea. and my co-workers and I call each other stuff too: babe, darlin, honey. My boyfriend has 2 baby mommas! It made me enraged and ruined my ****ing life. She's been beating him for something like 8 years now. He tells me I need things to die down in my home our kids are not so little not to tell me whats going with them at school or anywhere. If something happened to him I would be sad for MY DAUGHTER. There is also the respect factor when deals with another man's kids. And hopefully, she can finally be back in my arms. Why you think I'm answering his phone?" Your IP: She asked me to leave when things got rough in hopes of fixing us. They probably do still have soemthing going on. When he is dating I respect his personal life and I expect him to do the same for me. Take the initiative and tune out your mind or heart telling you that youd drop everything on a dime if she wanted you. I came across the guy with no intention of attractions what so ever. He admits to getting me pregnant on purpose, thinking we were going to be together. "Dating a man with kids and feeling left out". Strangely enough, I think it's easier for women to get over the father of their kids than for men to get over a babymama. I wasn't a great boyfriend for 6 yrs and then we had a child. But he doesnt know his boundaries. I know this is an older thread but hopefully you can reply. I'm still in love with my kids mom. We had ALOT of attraction and chemistry, but absolutely no compatability. It's different. I see it more of something you might call a female partner who you see as more of a dominant and/or nurturing and caring person in the relationship. Trust your gut. He's married and even if he said he's not she's now living in this country with him. I and my boyfriend rekindled and we are back together. It depends some people always have that love and some people don't. But anywho this guy was actually being an awesome gentle, but just wasn't for me. As he wants to have a baby with you, obviously he is investing in your future together, wants you, wants to take care of you, your children, and obviously want to grow old with you. explicit permission. Maybe he just heard it and found it amusing, and dedcided to pass it on. An occasional message late at night is fine if it's . They would call and put the baby on the phone then the baby dont want to talk so they jumps on the phone 1 min after he answers its a game of them wanting to talk to him and uses the child to get to him. 1. My kids are my blessing, but I wouldn't have anything the other 2 survived. I said you were gonna tell me when the baby is here ? Of course, this could be a sign that he's ready to settle down and take the next step in the relationship, but it could also be a . I've been loyal to my husband! The love of your life is still sleeping with his Baby Mama. Let not mention that bum(honestly speaking). Understand and keep this in the forefront of your mindit's not about you or your relationship with your man. She is married now and I can say for a fact I'm still madly in love with her. What she said stuck with me. It may also mean he likes you in a special way. My spirit was completely crushed by the time I called it quits. Its certainly a term of endearment then. Here are five tips for dealing with baby mama drama. But he says the love he has for me has been gone but I still want to be together. She starts asking for more time with you. Roommate Doesnt Want My Boyfriend Coming Over? Plus, the whole time he was with her, he would call and ask me for advice and talk with me about things he felt he couldn't express to her. What say you? Spanish term. The fact that a woman would give you her all, only for you to throw it away if the baby mama so much as wishes it.rather than feeling sorry for these future women.correct your issues before involving them. I doubt he is married since op has met his family, but it also makes it unlikely that he is in an open relationship with baby momma. Well I'm falling for a man with 2 "babymamas" recently and it sucks. But there are some that do get over the relationship and the love. He compliments your appearance. If that is the case then he might not actually have plans for the relationship in the long-term and he might be saying it to keep you happy for now. Yes and no, in mature relationships mom and dad get along for their child. Dump him and go find a man who is available and proud to walk around with you as his girlfriend. If he feels a need to talk in secret to his baby mama without your knowledge, then there's more going . I said nothing about anyone's flaws. Because I don't entertain drama. Distance is the biggest enemy when in a fight, and has been translated as the widening of a wedge. I fell into a deep depression, for a long time. Show him you have self respect and know your worth. He wants to keep you locked down. My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a Can my boyfriend still love his baby mama? I love my son with all my heart, when I told him I was pregnant he showed his true colors and told me go look for the real father and that he was with someone!now my son soon will be 10 months hes there financially but he never takes the baby to his home or comes help me, he said his gf knows but when he spent time with her he never answers if I call him for an emergency. We wanted to make sure that his kids were secure and settled before we took the big step. The origin web server does not have a valid SSL certificate. She's expected to be a nun. @mossgard. 32:47. The father of my child knew I wasn't on birth control.. (which I'm not saying it's all his fault it does take two to tango) anyways I found out after I had our daughter by his family members that he had purposely gotten me pregnant so I wouldn't go back to an ex. At this point, I believe in the statement "Things get worse before they get better". Yes, he said that nothing was going on between them and he did it one time to cope and she said she was on birth control (I know that was a lie), but the truth is, he ran right to her after I told him to piss off and she is pleased and happy as pie (after being made to wait 7 months to announce pregnancy, she is an idiot). I'm assuming you don't need him around financially. Even though he and I are divorced we have remained friends. Dam, Jasmine. Then tax payers like us have fit the bill for all their roach babies that they push out every year! Long story short I have done everything in my power to get this woman back! I was awake and i'm pretty sure it was the name of his female coworker. Take this advice from a woman who is married to a man who has a evil baby mama; just remember everything will work out for the good if your man stand firm when dealing with her and don't give in to her stupid games. Body language plays a key role in our daily lives. These baby mothers have children and teach those children how to be a worthless waste of skin too! What is love without respect? That must've been hard! He's using you and you are weak. No other girl would do the same with him. I think you're probably right that there's still something going on between them. If a guy ever got into drama with another woman guess what THERE'S FEELINGS THERE! Just because that's the kind of person he is. All the best beautiful mothers . I agree "**** my babies moma that b>> got drama". Unless baby daddy is a prize husband and father, I'd stop worrying about him and his ex. And I was just speechless I felt weird I didnt know what to think. Yeah! He has to put his foot down and tell bm not to call at all hours of the night. Then I caught her lying about seeing 2 other guys. Perhaps he wants to mostly keep his kids separate from his romantic life, or he is taking slower to blend his relationship with his home life. Divorce is a money making scam for lawyers! The reality is that, if she and the child are Honduran citizens, there is not a whole lot he can do if she decides to leave and take the child back home with her. When I tried doing research there was nothing on this? when out daughter was one he left to live in Iowa for almost a year and he got a girlfriend for months at a time he wouldn't even ask about her. Dear Carolyn: My husband has a child by his ex-girlfriend. Always try to have some patience and compassion as it's not an easy situation for the man to be in. We were lying in bed cuddling and he was asleep when he mumbled the name of another woman. It appears that Musiq Souldchild and his alleged baby mama Ashley Tiyumba Wright have split. AskMen Reader. My bf dated his BM for 14 years and they had three kids together. He is cheating on her by seeing you. telling the truth I am going through the same thing, but mine is multiple. If a guy got married in a church white wedding whole nine yards had children there's no way I would ever go anywhere near that guy! If he is your friend and he calls you mama then it would be a sign that he wants to be more than just friends with you. Check Yourself. We literally were the same person!! Ex is main concern for him and he allows it. His bm hates me and always calls me a **** claiming she's dating him anytime we talk. **** that. I don't what his problem is. 28:31. I don't know what to do. Fortunately for me, he was someone who told her not to bother him unless it has to do with the kids and it was urgent. Are you sure they are not married? Maybe it was just a nickname without importance. I changed the locks on our apartment and took him to child support for our then, 4 month old daughter. Its essential that the boyfriend, who is in the center of this situation, make it clear to his childs mother what is appropriate, that hes in a committed relationship with you, and that he should only be contacted when it has to do with the child they share. All comes down to the individual. she would have had to show respect for her man just like she should now for you. No body is perfect so you cannot blame people for that. but then he made another girl pregnant, and has chosen me over her. Women love to be called baby in this situation. How do you deal with picking schools and the bigger decisions when it comes to your child? Even his wife said, she didn't expect that he could go without sex for that long. Please dont bash a real woman for what im about to write. I feel bad for you..my boyfriend was doing this..he would go shopping with them his ex and 7 yr old..go to all the school functions and never invite me..we were together 4 years and im sure he did it more than i knew..on the 5th year he was with her more ..after 7mos of the constant lies and telling me i was crazy for thinking he was messing around..the ex calls me..she tells me they have been out together and "tried having sex" but never did..so he wanted to be w me in the end.n i felt like ha **** he chose me! Why do you tolerate this? He told me on Saturday after I took him home on FaceTime that he got his baby mama pregnant in January! My bf don't want to talk about his child mother Everytime I try to bring up something he shut it done. You have every reason to feel disresepected. There are not enough good men as it is. Unless you a have a child. This post will help you understand why he called you mama and help you understand why other guys would call you mama in the future. I have a kid but my kid is raised very well and very well behaved. He won't until he's ready. That's because in order to have a healthy relationship with his mom, your guy has to have some boundaries. So guys me and my daughter's dad split twice and it's been a year since our second split we have both moved on and he is now purchasing a home with the new girlfriend. If he's as fussy as most men can be, he'll want his lady back over his "mama" in a hurry. Its normal for some guys within certain cultures to call their girlfriends their baby mama, but its not a popular saying, to be honest. I don't know how my baby daddy feels about me. Answer (1 of 5): I would get rid of this guy if I were you,it sounds like he wants to get you pregnant and then split. Now if yall became compatible then cool, shit do what you will, dont get wit someone just to have someone until/incase she gets her shit together. Move on.. GET AWAY FROM THIS GUY! Whereas, if he shows multiple signs of attraction in his body language then it would be more likely that he actually is attracted to you. Even if you dont like being called his baby mama, it means he sees you as being in his future and is committed to you. For me, I don't think my boyfriend is "in love" with the mother of his children but he does have love for her and care for her for the simple fact she's the mother of his two kids. He also told me at the beginning of February that he didn't want to have another kid, which was a deal breaker for me when we started dating because he knew I wanted more, but that he couldn't take care of the ones he has so this was why he changed his mind. Mami . I would not continue this relationship. I go forward not backwards! Continue with Recommended Cookies. I have been playing both roles as mother and father for the past 16 years taking the responsibility financially, physically, and emotionally. Deep down they are still hoping or wishing things had worked out differently, especially if there wasn't something major like abuse or cheating going on. As a woman who didn't want a child, yet you are sleeping with random men-you had the choice of birth control OR not to sleep with a man you werent in a committed relationship with. If he only calls you mama, he is around the same age as you and he changes his body language and behavior in a positive way when you are around then it would be likely that he is attracted to you. He was nasty to me for a while and wasn't in my daughters life besides paying money for four month until recently he started trying to do things as a family so once a week we all go out and do something. It's just normal to me. I wish I was smart enough to leave when I could without having any drama or genetic attachments. If I'd wanted kids I would have had my own. Who knows what'll happen." No matter what, the communication must stay open. Guys follow me always did always will I will never follow them! Knowing that those women will always own a part of him gets to me, can't lie. My sons angry but that is his father and we all do what we feel is best at the time. Sometimes it makes me think something is wrong with me because you can do so much for someone and still they do you wrong . We add new porn videos hourly. February 12, 2021 at 9:06 am Cadbury. He may be meaning something more than he likes you by saying it, youre going to have to ask him what exactly he means. +1 y. Its a common question; What does it mean if my boyfriend calls me his baby mama?. More often than.not, people who share a child but aren't together anymore, they hate each other, or one hates the other more. Even if you did you still have no right to judge them. A Baby Mama who knows how to push your buttons will do it for entertainment purposes. I dated a guy who had three THREE different babymamas, (FOOL, me, of course) and two of them he had a good relationship with but one he hated. She stayed in Honduras, whilst he set up a home for her and the baby. I can tell in the tone of his voice. Her and my son never want for anything! Honestly, I haven't been happy for the past 3 years deep down because i know this other woman will forever be in his life. But she doesn't know the half of it. I guess he is married to her. I do love him, I have met his family and they are really nice and caring towards me. We broke up 3 months ago our son is 8 months and I caught him in our bed with another woman only days after we broke up. She bareycan keep a job so Im wondering if he takes care of her in addition to paying child support. Usually it is a term of endearment for guys that go out a lot and see beautiful women, I imagine a Latino man says it maybe but probably not a white guy. If neither the child or mother of the child know you something is up! I am ****ed but guess what. For example, you may say "hey, pick that up," and they'll respond "ok, mom." So, yes, it's like you're nagging them like a mother. He wanted me to go get checked out. I told her no , told I didn't know about any new baby either . It was a boy; he text me the pics. Why don't you upgrade to a nice stable upper class life? No, I think some men, can NOT stop stringing alone there baby momma. Community Experts online right now. He's playing her and was trying to play me again.. This is not a good sign. If my ex was serious about her even if he cheated on me with her, for our son I would be fine with meeting her. N not try n change who I am! I just wanted to move on. Both of my kids have gone through the same as yours, and I cemented the fact that my name was not "Mommy" by jokingly saying, "I-AIN'T-CHE-MAMA!" Moved on. They made all these promises to each other. u know the situation n if u c u can . Body Language Central IS A PARTICIPANT IN THE AMAZON SERVICES LLC ASSOCIATES PROGRAM. He also calls me sweetie and my love but would never call his daughter those things.